I am the proud mother of six children. My last child is the blessing brought about by having a reversal of the tubal ligation I had after my fifth child in 2000. Here's my story:
My husband and I have been married for 21 years. We had always talked about having four children. After our fourth child was born in 1997, we did not feel "done". It seemed that we still needed to see another little face on the family Christmas picture. We talked and talked about ONE more child and finally in 1999 decided that we would have a fifth child. During the pregnancy we learned that the baby was going to be another little boy, bringing our ratio of boys to girls 4:1. This was fine with us and we welcomed our son into the family with joy. But since I was really done being pregnant, and since this was now a larger family than we had ever even dreamed of, we opted to have my tubes tied after he was born. Even on the day I was having this done, I had doubts about whether this was the right thing to do but convention in our society does not smile on large families and ours was over the top of what most people have, so I had the tubal.
When my fifth child was a year and a half old, we moved to Louisville. I had been feeling this nagging tug at my heart that I wished we had not permanently shut off the baby-machine. I did not share this with my husband because it seemed like a hopeless thing to even discuss - but instead decided to pray about these feelings and ask God to help me get over it - accept that the baby-bearing phase of my life was done. Instead of the feelings going away, they got worse. And then the strangest thing happened. I was flipping through the local yellow pages to find a pediatrician for my children and came across the full page advertisement with the most beautiful baby on it. The caption read, "Want a baby?" The ad went on to tell about Dr. Levin's practice and told about tubal ligation reversals. I decided it wouldn't hurt to call and just get information. His staff was great about sending me a packet that told all about the process, what would be required and success r ates for Dr. Levin. I sent for the medical records from my surgery out of curiosity and found out I had only had the fallopian rings put on - good news according to the information I had been sent!
Next, I did a search on the internet of my own to see who else did the reversals in the United States. What I learned was that I was living in the same town as THE EXPERT when it comes to reversing sterilizations! Still, I did not talk to my husband about it. Life was busy with five children and I was still hoping to "snap out" of wanting one more child.
But the story gets more amazing. One day my husband and I were discussing what we would like to do as our "midlife fling" - would we buy a fancy car, go on a cruise - etc. My husband turned to me and out of the blue said, "I'd have one more child". I almost fell off my chair! Thus about a year long conversation started about whether or not we really wanted to be parents of six children, what would life be like with a newborn at the age of 40 (I was 38 when we started discussing it...) etc. Finally, we decided I should go talk to Dr. Levin to see if he would even do the surgery on someone "so old". He was SO NICE! He laughed when I told him my biggest concern was my age and was very reassuring.
About 6 months later, we made the final decision to go ahead with the surgery. Since we did not want anyone to know we were trying to have another child, in case it did not work, we kept it a total secret. I was scared to DEATH before the surgery. I kept worrying that I would die during the surgery as I felt like I was testing fate to have surgery when I already had five healthy, beautiful children. But Dr. Levin was very reassuring and the nurses at Jewish Hospital were WONDERFUL! Everything went well and the good news was that I had plenty of fallopian tube left on each side so the outcome would most likely be another pregnancy.
We had decided to wait 3 months after the surgery before trying to conceive. In my fourth month after the surgery, we were not as careful as usual but we actually chickened out when it was time for me to ovulate. In fact, we had decided to change our minds and not have the sixth child...but as God would have it, I was ALREADY PREGNANT!!
When I went to Dr. Levin's office for an ultrasound to make sure the embryo was actually in the uterus, I fell in love with that little heartbeat! We had a little "might be twins scare" which threw me completely since I had not even dreamed of SEVEN children, but a few weeks later another ultrasound showed ONE healthy fetus. I have to say that Dr. Levin was incredibly nice to me during my scared-to-death phase over the twin thing. He emailed me several times and I felt much better after he had discussed the whole scenario with me.
In January of 2004 the whole crew of us went to see if we were expecting more blue booties or some pink ones. A HUGE cheer went up when the ultrasound tech said, "It's a little girl in there!" On May 23, 2004 I delivered a beautiful little girl. Olivia Grace Feinn weighed 7pounds, 1 ounce and was 19 1/2 inches long.
It is just my opinion, but I think she is even cuter than the adorable baby in the yellow pages I saw. I am SO GRATEFUL to Dr. Levin for his EXPERT care and help in making our dream of one more child a reality. Now that she is here, we do not have even an ounce of regret. I say every day, "Life just doesn't get any better than this!"
If you want to see more pictures of her or her big sister and brothers, go to my website: www.bestmomintheuniverse.com
. You can feel free to email me if you have any questions that I can help you with.
Thanks, Dr. Levin!